During therapy

I am blaming myself for things going wrong in therapy

Therapy happens via a relationship between you and your therapist.   When relationships go wrong, it is unusual for it to be entirely one person’s fault, and actually it is your therapist’s job to help you have the best experience of therapy, whatever the reason for the situation. Blaming yourself will not help to put things right.

Despite knowing all this, sometimes people find it impossible to stop blaming themselves and this can cause further depression or anxiety.

I started to feel like I was doing therapy wrong or perhaps wasn’t working hard enough

This is because for some of us, ‘self-blame’ is a pattern or a habit we have got into over many years. Sometimes, it’s a sign that therapy is harming you rather than helping you. Whatever the reason, there are some constructive, helpful ways to tackle the problem which you will find on this website.