During therapy

Who can help me if I have concerns?

The therapist was always late and one week she was half an hour late!

I had to talk about my problems and the therapist didn’t say anything. This was very difficult for me as I find talking to others hard. I couldn’t work out what was supposed to happen so I felt like I was just going round and round.Many people also confide in a family member or close friend, but not everyone is able to do this or has someone to confide in.  Even if you are able to talk to a family member or friend, you should always raise your concerns with your therapist in the first instance.  This can feel scary but speaking honestly and openly about what is bothering you is the right thing to do.  Sometimes this really works and the therapist responds very well, but sometimes a therapist may avoid discussing the problem, or may try to turn it back onto you, as if it is just your problem.

If this happens, there are a number of things you can do. In the NHS you can ask the clinic manager, where your therapist works, for a second opinion.  This is a right of all NHS clients and the clinic manager should enable you to have a confidential discussion with a different psychological therapist about what’s happening.   Alternatively, you can talk to your GP in confidence. 

The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) run an online ‘helpline’ for people who have concerns about their therapy.  It’s called ‘Ask Kathleen’, and is there to give you free, confidential and independent information and guidance.  You can use this service at: http://www.bacpregister.co.uk/public/ask_kathleen.php